It’s all about taking action and making it happen. Women who go out with you are already open to the possibility of physical intimacy, so it’s just a matter of changing your approach. Even if you keep doing the same thing, it’s all about numbers. Just don’t give up, it’s not a good look and it’s really disheartening.
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Realistically, you shouldn’t be putting yourself in a position to “lose all the time”. Ideally, you build upon successes and then try to achieve a bigger success. Failing to achieve can be tough, especially when there’s a ton of effort involved, but if you feel like you’re completely on your ass every time then you probably should be thinking of your goals in terms of smaller steps.
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I think a lot of people fall into this perspective that nobody will ever love them, and they take past experience as evidence. But really what this means is that the approach your using is unsuccessful. In reality, even if you have severe physical and mental issues, there are still people out there who will be into it, probably more than you realize. My advice is to lean into the statistics, go to an online dating site, clean up your profile and picture so you don’t come off as an axe murderer, and cast a wide net.
Sometimes people are needlessly abrasive and adversarial, in my experience these are oftentimes decent enough people but for whatever reason can’t fathom why their boarish behavior would ever bother anymore. It sounds like he sucks up all the oxygen in the room and nobody on his team is willing to confront them. In my experience, these assholes are people too and when you get to know them you’ll find a way to look past their behavior.